I’ve been a dating coach for over 10 years, helping men who are having difficulty meeting women find and keep a girlfriend.
Everyone is different, but I have noticed that there are 5 core steps that pretty much any guy (or girl) can follow to find a girlfriend in a relatively short amount of time.
In this article I will share a practical “framework” that you can follow to find and keep a girlfriend within 30 days. While this works, you must remember that in order to execute it correctly you must have self belief and confidence.
This means doing the deep inner work if you are not already there yet.
If you need help with this, check out my online dating program on Menprovement X. But if you think you’re ready, then follow these 4 steps to find a girlfriend fast.
Table of Contents
1: Talk to Her
When you see a girl you like, you’ll know it. When most guys get this amazing feeling, they do nothing. They think about how amazing it would be to be with a girl like that, and hit the apps or call their buds to go out to the bars that night.
But she’s right there! If you let her go you’ll likely never see her again.
A.K.A – you have nothing to lose.
And news flash – The bars and online dating sites are the WORST place to meet women. I have a super hot wife, and when she had an online dating profile she would get hundreds of messages everyday. And at the bars, guys hit on her one after the other.
Too much competition.
I met my wife walking on the streets of Budapest. And guess what – I was the only guy who said hello to her on the street that day.
No competition.
I know it’s scary, and you will be filled with anxiety the first few times you do this – but I promise it gets easier the more you do it.
All you have to do is get her attention (stopping her, saying something) and just tell her what is true in that moment.
“Hey, I know this is weird – but I just saw you and I think you are absolutely gorgeous. I am super nervous but I just wanted to say hello.”
At the very least she’ll thank you for the compliment.
From there, talk for a while and express your intent. Ask for her phone number, or even to grab a coffee at that moment. Once you’ve got her #, you are no longer strangers – but now you are a possible romantic partner. Now, it’s time to move on to the next step.
2: Text Her
Texting can be a great way to spark the beginnings of something special. When texting a girl that you like, the key is to keep it light and flirty. Keeping direct eye contact isn’t possible through texting, but you can build chemistry through your words.
Through texting, use humor to keep your conversation light and bubbly.
Make sure to laugh at each other’s jokes as feelings of adoration start to form. Keep it smooth and sway her emotions before going in for the first date. Make use of texting as a tool to get her excited about you and make her look forward to seeing you in person!
If you suck at texting, as many men do – check out this epic guide to texting. Or if you are a female looking to get better at texting guys – this one is for you.
3: Nail The First Date
Whether it’s the first time you’ve asked her out or you’ve been friends for years, a first date is always nerve-wracking.
The key to impressing your special lady is choosing the perfect location that not only fits her personality and interests, but also sets a romantic tone.
Consider taking her to an outdoor activity like a scenic hike or bike ride to chat and bond in a natural atmosphere. If she’s more of an active type, test each other’s skills playing bowling, mini golf, or badminton for some friendly competition. Or take it slow with brunch at a local cafe or grab drinks at a cozy bar–nothing shows effort more than spending quality time getting to know one another in an intimate yet relaxed setting.
Just try to avoid an over pressurized “romantic dinner” for the first date.
No matter where you choose on your first date, remember that making every moment count will make all the difference!
4: Know Your Way Around The Bedroom
The above steps will help you meet a girl. This step will help you keep her as your girlfriend.
I know the most important things in your connection are how well you get along, make each other laugh and enjoy each other’s company. I’m assuming you have this covered.
But there are more factors that determine if a girl wants to be in a committed relationship with you. One of them is your ability in the bedroom.
I’m not going to go too deep into this here. That’s why I created Menprovement X. But even if you think you know what you are doing in the bedroom, you probably don’t.
Learn how to give a sensual massage. Learn the female anatomy. Learn the erogenous zones and to master foreplay. Learn to pleasure her with cunnilingus and penetration. And learn how to last as long as you want.
Just this will put you at a level where she won’t want to let you go.
Conclusion
That’s it guys. With these 4 steps you have a powerful framework for finding a girlfriend. I say framework, because between the pillars there are A LOT of details to fill in.
If you want to learn more, check out my program on Menprovement X. It will teach you everything you need to know.
